I got a call from The Player’s relative, who was sort of representing a group of The Player’s relatives. She said “we” a lot, as if to tell me there was a group of people rooting for us!
Key phrases from her:
We really do love you. We are not against you. I hope you know that.
We really want to see you work it out.
It’ll be better on the other side.
I’m not sure I even want to know any more. (When I mentioned the cheating went back two decades)
Yeah, we’re really worried about the kids, too.
I hope you can forgive him and move on.
I’m heartbroken for you both.
I just hope you don’t make any quick decisions.
You do have had a lot of grief.
Key phrases from me:
I don’t think you’re against me, but I can’t say I think you’re for me, either.
I’m most worried for the kids. I don’t care about me, I’m so terribly worried about the kids. A strong family life is something I knew we could give them in their uncertain lives.
I don’t know how I am going to live with his history. It’s pretty bad. Twenty years and with people I know?
I’m only heartbroken for me and the kids. The Player made his choices. Many times.
It’s my wish to work it out, I just don’t know if I can do it, if I can forget our entire life together and start over because I understand that is what it is going to take.
I think it’s best for the kids and The Player to work it out but I can’t say it’s best for me.
Well, The Player has all the comforts of home right now, he’s not doing too poorly.
I don’t know how to look at my whole life with him and know it was a lie. All of it. He was really good at living a double life. He is very closed off, not introspective or insightful so this journey of his isn’t going to be easy, if he can do it at all.
I can’t believe this is my life.