When we covered the rules about my detaching I decided not to give up physical contact and affection unless The Player thought it’d be easier. At mention of my detaching and ground rules, he said, “Maybe no sex!?! I’m going to be very worried if we’re not connected somehow in some way with each other. If sex and affection are all you’ll give me, I’ll take it.”
He knows me well. There really has to be a big goddamned crisis going on for me to not want to fuck him. I’ve always been able to separate life and fucking. We’ve always been able to connect in that way. It was a great way for us to lovingly be together without talking. Like I’ve said before, we are really good at it. He’s excellent in bed and an extremely thoughtful lover, which makes it hard to give up right now. I mean, my fucking world has imploded, I have to give up my orgasms too? That ain’t right. So I shut down that idea of mine pretty fast and he was relieved.
Ironically enough, the “sex addict” doesn’t need much sex. He’d have been fine if we had sex 1-2 times a week. Me? Not so much. I could fuck him every day. (this boggles a friend’s mind) so I have to compromise somewhere in the middle.
I could take him or leave him right now. If I could still take him, that is.